There is a girl on my Facebook that I worked with a couple years ago, who is constantly falling in and out of relationships - she’s had three boyfriends so far this month - and talking about how there are no good guys left, how all the men in the world are liars and cheaters. She has a one-year-old kid and I think she really wants a father figure for him, but whatever she’s doing is just attracting douchebags.
Note, I haven’t talked to her in about two years since we last worked together, but I keep seeing her drama on my Facebook feed and it makes me really sad to see.
So this is what I posted. If you know anyone else in a situation like this, feel free to pass it on.
My advice is to change your approach completely because what you’re doing now isn’t working.
Stop actively looking for a boyfriend for a good long while and pursue a hobby. Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve: you’ve been hurt before and you keep falling in with douchebags who don’t treat you like you deserve. Flaunt your smarts because any guy worth being with is going to be ALL over that and anyone who doesn’t care that you’re smart is just looking for a quick lay.
Go on at least a month of classy dates with someone before calling them your boyfriend… and don’t even IMAGINE that you’re falling in love with someone for at least three months because before that it’s lust. And there’s nothing wrong with lust, because it’s fun… you just don’t wanna confuse one for the other. And you want to make sure you really, REALLY know the guy before entrusting him with the love in your heart, your adorable son, and your future!
And I’m serious about the hobby thing. If you don’t have a social hobby, start one. Join a book club or a hiking club or a knitting circle or something, something that may be out of your comfort zone but will introduce you to new things and new people. It will enrich you as a person and you might even end up meeting Mr. Right this way.
This is just my two cents; you don’t obviously need to take my advice, but I keep seeing you running around on Facebook with douchebags who don’t deserve you.